There is a sentence that almost always comes up during a
break up: "But we can still be friends".

Sound familiar?

Very often the “dumpers” are saying it, but it can also
be the “dumpees”.

Why do the dumpers always want to stay friends with you?

They want to stay friends because of guilt, and because
they don't want to lose you completely - sometimes out of
pity, and in some cases because they hope to be able to get
back together IF something goes wrong with their plans.

Let me tell you this: NONE of these excuses are a good
reason for you to stay friends.

I know you want it.

I know you would do anything to stay close to your Ex. But
it is best for you to stay away from her/him.

NEVER, ever stay friends with your Ex until you are over
them.

NEVER!

I almost never hear about a case where the “dumpee”
admits years later that staying friends was a good idea. On
the contrary, they all say it was a mistake.

And it is.

Here's why:

- it will delay your healing for a long time
- it will prevent you from evolving
- it will throw your recovery back months whenever your Ex
doesn't act as you want her/him to
- you will always have some expectations your ex cannot
fulfill
- your friendship will never be equal: you need, your Ex
doesn't

After a break up, it's the best thing to cut off contact
completely and stay away from your Ex. You know that.

This is not an intellectual theory - this is proven to be
the best way to go after a break up or divorce.

Why not try finding new friends? The best way to accomplish
this is through new activities, like a new hobby or sport.

Every new experience is a step away from your Ex.

Your friend,

Eddie Corbano