Your ex is not better than you.

The person they may have left you for or, are currently seeing, is not better than you.

I went through hell the last few months and did the same thing that many of you are doing here. Crying and living life in pain. Watching the phone wondering if their name will appear. Jumping at the mere sight of a car that looks just like theirs. Shaking in the night when all you want is the warmth of their touch. Waking up and thinking of them. Going to sleep thinking of them. Having nightmares about them.

But that person is gone ladies and gentlemen and you have to remember that they chose to leave you. Their choice, whether you are able to stomach it or not, was their choice. Now you're left with a choice. It was one I struggled to arrive at, but now I'm getting there once again. I fought tooth and nail for a month of no contact and my ex came back into my life with long voicemails claiming she missed me. This is it! I got her back. So after I couldn't take it any more, I hopped in the car and went to go see my love! This is it!
She was with another man

You see, we all have a choice now. We have the choice to say, "You toyed with my heart and well-being and left me in the dust. You hurt me in a brutal way, leaving me with nothing but my tears stream down my face. You buried me in a hole so deep that I cannot believe there is a way out. But I'm making a choice now. I'm going to emerge from this abyss and I'm going to find what it was that made me happiest before you ever even stepped into my life. My choice is to stop wallowing, get up and make myself better for having been hurt by you. I'm going to make you regret ever walking away from me. I'm going to win for myself because that is the most important person in this equation. Me."

Maybe that person cheated on you. Maybe they got tired of the relationship and were bored. Maybe they wanted to see what else was out there before they faced the proposition of ?¢‚ǨÀúforever'. Maybe they're messed up in the head and have low self-esteem. Maybe they think they're too good for you. Maybe, maybe, maybe?¢‚Ǩ¬¶
Maybe means nothing because you don't know and you won't know. You'll never know their real reasons behind it and any pressuring that you do to find these answers is only going to hurt you more. Take it from me because I messed up bad. I jumped at the chance to be with a woman who betrayed me in the worst possible way. I thought, "Hell, everyone deserves another chance." All I did was reward her with the chance to crush me again. That's it. I'm done and I'm going to make you rue the day you ever hurt me like this. That's right folks, her betrayal is my motivation to better myself these days.

So they made a choice and now you have a choice right in front of you. I know it hurts and I'm not trying to take away from that. But get tough, get mad and look at yourself square in the mirror and say these words?¢‚Ǩ¬¶hell, scream these words?¢‚Ǩ¬¶

F**k ?¢‚ǨÀúem. I'm going to live for me